two ditches of the free-will debate

Summary: "God is causing relationships with people, causing them to feed off of his life/identity. NOT 1) unthinking automatons or 2) independent people that can be alive without God."

1)
The ditch that free-will people (I don't want to use the label Armenian) are trying to avoid is the unthinking automaton side. I was reading The Shack by Wm Paul Young recently and at the top of page 94 God tells the main character "If you let me, Mack, I'll be the papa you never had."
This is what I wrote in my notes: 'Why is voluntary so repulsive? Because then I am nothing.'
Basically I was thinking of mindless surrender to God, allowing him to work in my whatever he pleased and I would shut off my brain and let him do it. That's almost ok. We're supposed to surrender to God, right? Not mindlessly. We must feed continuously off of his grace, truth, and love to us. It is his power living in us that gives us strength to lift our bones off the ground.

A second illustration. I read a perhaps 30 page long piece of work by Immanuel Kant which I am fairly certain is taken from his Grounding for the Metaphysics of Morals . Kant has a very high view of the individual human. As I read it occurred to me that perhaps humans are the only creatures that are capable of making decisions, of weighing the pros and cons, of figuring out what is right and wrong, and making choices based on that. With this view, we could see God's truth shining brighter when his chosen people see it, given to them by God, and say 'yes, it is congruent and makes sense'.
Now, of course I must avoid saying that humans can figure out on their own what is right and what is wrong, and I must CERTAINLY avoid saying that we can arbitrarily decide what is right and wrong. We MUST learn right and wrong from God and him only, trusting him.

2)
The error that Calvinists (or whatever word we use) try to avoid is that humans have any independence from God. We were created by God and only exist by his living will. Without his life living in us we run aimlessly in illogical circles (I just did that for the past 2 hours) and reject his truth. We must learn to hold fast to God as our only hope.
At this current time God is teaching us all to love him. He is giving us grace and truth through many different forms (bible, holy spirit, people, circumstances, etc) and we are learning to depend more and more on him, to draw closer in a relationship.
Now, I'm not quite certain that this is the main point of the universe (previous paragraph) but it's got to be pretty close.

Where I am currently in The Shack has just described the fall in the garden of Eden as choosing our own version of right and wrong [oooh man this sounds so much like relativistic morality in America!!]. If this is the main problem of humans, what caused original sin, then this is pretty important. At first is seems like Calvinism would be the best to focus on, but for God to win us back, there must be an 'us' to win back, something cognitive and alive to respond.

Gospel: God is sending out a huge strong message of love. You CANNOT do this on your own. Run to God [egh, that still sounds like humans are doing the work...] to save you. Proverbs 18:10 "The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe."

communication principle for holy spirit

Because each individual has their own languages (not equally-valid worldviews by the way, I think there is absolute truth), all incoming information to all people is slightly misinterpreted. Therefore, no one can ever, via outside information, completely understand anything communicated to them. How then can anyone be saved? How then can anyone understand the gospel?

This is why we, as humans, cannot save people in and of ourselves. God must speak our own language. He does that via the Holy Spirit.