learning gods will long-term

This idea has been dinking around inside my head for a while, and I guess I haven't put it down until now.

God will rarely give us writing in the sky to tell us what to do for many reasons. The reason that started this post is this: he wants us to learn what he wants us to do. Not that we're supposed to guess, or try and fail, or learn Gods whims, but God has a general plan for the universe (love us like crazy and hold up the standard of perfection...something like that) and typical ways he carries them out. God wants us to learn those principles and patterns.
Example: when you love your spouse, do you ask (her) "would you feel loved today if I made you breakfast or gave you a back massage?" NO! (well, maybe). You learn over time that her back is fine because she's a world class athlete, but she gets so hungry and it's really nice to wake up later to a really huge, calorie-rich breakfast. Same idea with God. He wants us to learn his ways.
Sometimes it's different. Like when you're buying a house with your spouse, you don't just assume that she wants the one with green walls because she generally likes green over other colors, no, you talk it over with her (hopefully considering more imporant facets of the house).

2) Ok, more reasons he doesn't show up big: That would teach us to be servants. God wants sons, not servants. (Galatians 4). Sons eventually take on the fathers business - we have been given dominion over the earth and have been told to take care of it. Plus hold fast to Gods teachings, worship him because he's awesome, hang out with him all the time because he knows everything, etc.

3) There are also times that you simply shouldn't know Gods will. When am I going to die? Not good to know. Who should I marry? Not good to know before the proper time. Imagine meeting your future wife in middle school and you know you're going to marry her...how do you start a friendship, much less a courtship, on those terms?

4) God also doens't want to order us around. (That's kind of like reason 2, but not exactly the same maybe). He gave us free will. He wants us to do his bidding because we WANT to, not because he told us. Imagine god telling you to read your bible everyday. Ugh... I mean, him talking to me would be awesome, but saying "You MUST read your bible." is stifiling.
I guess I can imagine him asking from his heart "I would love to spend time with you!" (Which is true by the way, don't ever doubt it.)

So...don't get all antsy when God doesn't speak to you from a thundercloud. Keep pursuing him like the persistent widow, yes, but don't worry. Keep researching a decision, pay attention to 'open' or 'closed' doors and all that, all the little signs of what God wants you to do, keep seeking in your bible for 'what would jesus do' and all that. But maybe you're just supposed to wait? Trust God to tell you when you need it. If you are seeking him with an open heart and nothing irking you in the background or things you need to confess (NOT meaning you are without sin, just need to confess it) and whatnot, you are doing just fine. God will take care of you, don't worry.